So where were we with Jillian and her trip to Arizona? If you are confused on this blog post, please read my previous post called Not Here – Not Now.
So Jillian is taken to Arizona by her modeling agent and in the middle of the night her agent and some thugs break into her room, rape her, and video-tape it. This is when Jillian became a sex slave. Here are some excerpts from interviews she has done:
When she flew back home to Charlotte, the agent demanded she see him. He threatened to release the footage online of her being raped if she didn’t do as he said. Fearful that her family and friends would see the tape, she would go to him in various locations in the city twice a month. He filmed and photographed himself raping her, uploaded the videos to the Internet anyway and sold them to websites.
Mourning, now 25, was a victim of sex trafficking, the criminal act of using fraud, force and coercion to sexually exploit people for profit. Victims include anyone forced to perform a sex act to earn money for a trafficker, according to the North Carolina Coalition Against Human Trafficking. Sex trafficking is characterized by psychological and physical coercion and can include, but does not require, transportation of the victim.
North Carolina consistently ranks in the top 10 most active states in the country for sex trafficking, according to the coalition. Reasons include the state’s transient population, including immigrants who could be in debt bondage, which is when someone pledges themselves to labor to repay a loan. More cases of sex trafficking are reported in Charlotte than any other city in the state, according to a 2012 annual report from the National Human Trafficking Resource Center, likely because it is the biggest city between Washington, D.C., and Atlanta, and the airport is the sixth busiest in the U.S.
In the U.S., the Internet is the No. 1 platform for traffickers to buy and sell women and children, including boys, for sex. The Polaris Project, part of the National Trafficking Resource Center, studied domestic sex-trafficking networks that hide behind businesses on the Internet, and use “recruiters” who make false promises to people online to lure them into a sex-trafficking ring. For example, a female recruiter asked Mourning to join a local modeling agency, which is how she signed on with her “agent.”
So my mind has been chewing on this subject ever since I found out about Jillian last week. And please forgive as I ramble in my thoughts and writing. If a man, say a regular fella that you work with, or live near, married or single, goes away for a weekend to a PGA event, let’s say in Tampa. Let’s say he is away from his work and family so he decides to live on the edge a little and crosses the line into buying some time with a young lady for the evening. And let’s say he pays her for her services and the returns home feeling guilty for crossing “that” line, whether he is married or single. He feels guilty why? Because he paid for sex, cheated on his wife, possibly endangered his health by having sex with someone he doesn’t know….but what about this thought. If he paid for services from someone who chooses to sell herself, then he has just either had sex with a stranger or committed adultery, right? But what if he happens to pay for services from a young lady who is actually doing this against her will, she is a victim of sex trafficking and he is….a rapist? Uhh…you mean the regular guys that just go and have a good time in their fancy golf shirts? Aren’t they just thinking there is no harm in having a little fun while they are out-of-town? They ARE paying for services after all so do they ever wonder if this girl is being held against her will and is a victim? A human trafficking horror story right there is his arms? Would it ever cross his mind that he is no different than the dudes arrested on tv for raping someone? How exactly does this work? I am asking you because I honestly don’t know. Also, what if she is 14 and is made up to look like she is 19 – then what does that really make him? Is it all pushed under the rug because he doesn’t know all of the facts, because he paid his fair share for this service, because he is from out-of-town and is just having a good time, or what? Where is the thought process behind this – or is there no thought process at all?
Isn’t this the core of the problem? If men were not buying sex from women, willing or unwilling participants, wouldn’t the industry collapse? I know this is all my naive view on the world, but if the demand isn’t there – doesn’t the market go away? What is wrong with this picture and how can this be happening in our own backyard with the fellas we work with, live with, and sit in church with? I don’t understand. I know some people have problems with sexual addiction etc – and for that I am sorry, but my guess is that is not what the driving force behind this trafficking industry is. Whenever I hear of the human trafficking industry I always picture slums, in another country, poor people with their kids being taken away and no one doing anything to help them. I also picture seedy men purchasing these girls in dark alleys and rancid hotels. I didn’t picture nice hotels with regular businessmen buying into this industry and raping women or young girls, during regular old sporting events. I just never imagined it, not during my darkest days. But the truth is that it is happening – by the bus load.
So back to Jillian – she has started a non-profit organization called All We Want Is L.O.V.E. and she is doing GREAT things. I will continue to blog about her organization as her story unfolds, but for now you can see her website here:
Looking for a great cause to support? This one would be it. She is not only changing her horrific ordeal into by raising awareness, but she is DOING something to help anyone being held against their will. More more more on this to follow!