I was driving down the road the other day, on a 4 hour trip, alone, and my mind started wandering. I began to think about some of the things I have seen on the news and internet lately and I began to realize how “lost” we really are. I started thinking through the news articles and the things I have learned over the past year or so…and the ramifications of this behavior are really beginning to sink into my heart and soul, more now than ever. I am not sure if it’s because when I was a single Mom I was in the trenches of complete chaos running 100 mph and never had time to complete a full thought. Or if it is because I am expecting my first grand baby and my mind and heart sink when I think of the world she will be growing up in.
I have listed below some of the things that were running through my mind, and as I drove along I realized more and more of the horror that is happening to society because of the behavior in our society:
North Carolina is in the top ten states for sex trafficking. Our CHILDREN are being stolen, coerced, used, abused, raped, held against their will, and a lot of them don’t survive this sub-culture. They never come out. Do we get that? If we get that, why oh why, are our city officials, and state government, not doing things to not only preventing this at our sporting events and political conferences, but why aren’t they stopping it? We have the power to put people into space, we can see other planets, we can fly planes at a million miles an hour, we can spy on people across the globe, but we cannot stop buses of children, sex slaves, from being brought into our city to be raped by the men in our area?
COLUMBUS, Ohio (AP) — Condemned killer Steven Smith’s argument for mercy isn’t an easy one. Smith acknowledges he intended to rape his girlfriend’s 6-month-old daughter but says he never intended to kill the baby.
Federal agents arrested a Colorado man they say raped a baby at a Bakersfield, Calif. motel, videotaped the entire attack and then shared it on the Internet. The yearlong investigation led them to a Bakersfield motel and a family whose 11-month-old son was the victim.
The internet and news are LOADED with stories like this. These victims are not only children – they are BABIES. Someone’s daughter or son. Someone’s sister or brother. Someone’s child.
The struggle with pornography in this country is horrendous. The cycle of porn is described here: Sometimes, pornography can even lead you to do things you never imagined. Consider Gene McConnell. He was an ordinary businessman with a wife and daughter, but fascination with pornography became the fuel that caused his normal life to explode. “It began to ruin my marriage, my business, everything,” explains Gene. “It started with strip-tease or topless bars, then to massage parlors and prostitutes. Finally, I started fantasizing about what it would be like to actually rape a woman. I tried it one night when I saw a woman who ‘fit’ the scenario in porn. Fortunately, I didn’t go through with it. After being reported and arrested by the police, I spent some time in jail.”
There are people spending more money than they make to uphold an image that they use to cover up their own insecurities. The perfect term I heard recently is “fake it till you make it”…..but what if you lose your job in the middle of faking it? How many people did this happen to during the financial crisis in 2008, 2009, and 2010 or through our current financial environment? Too many.
We have girls texting pictures of their breasts, or pictures of them sitting on a toilet, or pulling down their pants. They send it to a boy or post it on facebook, or someone else does. Why? Why? Why?
There are rainbow parties – are your kids attending these? Do you even know what they are? If not, you may want to ask your teens about them and research them. If your teens are going, stop them. Do you even know where your teens are half of the time?
Parents want to be friends with their kids, they don’t want to parent, discipline, teach them values, consequences, or responsibility. Why? We are supposed to train our children to be self-sufficient and to contribute to society – not be a drain on it.
I read this quote the other day and it really hit home for me:
“I may be wrong, but it seems that there may be some unraveling of the American tapestry. I see people getting so caught up in celebrating diversity that they are neglecting their commonality. I don’t see this as a good thing.” Walking On Water – Richard Paul Evans.
Carolina Panthers defensive end Greg Hardy has been arrested on domestic violence charges in relation to his girlfriend. Known as “Kraken” Hardy is or was a very popular member of the team among the fans.
There are more people being held in slavery now, today, than in any other point in history.
CHARLOTTE, N.C. — The mayor of North Carolina’s largest city resigned on Wednesday after his arrest on public corruption charges. U.S. Attorney Anne Tompkins said Wednesday that Charlotte Mayor Patrick Cannon is facing theft and bribery charges.
My favorite musician, Edwin McCain has a song called “Lost in America” and here are a few of the words from the chorus. These are words I have listened to, many times, but really heard them in the car the other day:
Yes, we’re lost in America
In this land we’re so proud of
We got the cars, the girls, the money, the drugs
To get you out of your rut
Yes, we’re lost in America
I know that many generations have complained about the “state” of the country going down the old toilet. I hear myself now and I sound like my Mother! There is just such a moral decay creeping through our society that it frightens me. I know that churches are popping up by the minute and people are being baptized and joining the churches in droves. And I hope this can help build a stronger base to raise our next generations on. Something. Not the me generation. Not the fake it till you make it generation. Not the entitlement era. Something has to change – for the better. Somehow, and soon.
In my mind it starts with the parents. If they are not doing their jobs raising their children with good morals, standards, expectations and responsibility, it all goes downhill from there. The schools are not supposed to be responsible for raising our children, the government is not supposed to be paying the way for everyone who doesn’t want to work, and people just need to stop doing horrible things to other people. I don’t care if you are black, white, green, or purple…we are human beings and we should all be doing the right thing. Not just for ourselves, but for other people. We are role models for our children, role models at our jobs, role models in our own circle of friends. People are always watching other people. Children are learning more from how they see their parents behave more than listening to what their parents tell them they should learn. Caught not taught! You can inspire love, ways to help other people, doing good things, and being decent, or you can inspire hatred, porn, selfishness, drama, irresponsibility, and abuse. You and only you have the power to pick which way your children see you.
Another part of the song by Edwin McCain is below and this is also how I feel sometimes:
I’m droppin’ out
And I’m quittin’ this game
Yes, I’m washin’ my feet, I turn off my phone
Changin’ my name, hittin’ the road
Don’t really know where I’m gonna go
But I’m gettin’ the hell out of here….
Ok, so if I wasn’t waiting for a grand baby maybe those words would definitely pull at me and make me want to change my name and hit the road. But I cannot, not anymore. So, I am going to use the words I heard from a speaker at a benefit we attended for a sex trafficking non-profit organization. If you are not doing something to stop the problem, you are part of the problem…..so, with that being said, what can I do?