This morning I posted my very first thoughts on my #31 Days Of Love, but I have already changed my mind. Can I do 31 days in pink clothes? Probably. Can I tag my survivor friends and write wonderful things about them without missing a few by accident? Probably not. It’s not like I keep a list lying around or something. But, I am going to give it my best shot. I decided to run this through my blog instead of just FB because I have some pretty important survivor friends who read this and who are not on FB. So….that to me is more important than making this easy.
I am sorry for all of the pink nay-sayers out there. Especially the ones who are survivors. It must be horrible to have breast cancer pink – shoved down your throat – for an entire month when you are just against it. And for that, I am sorry for those women. I admit that for me it gets a little old seeing pink ribbons on things that are UNHEALTHY and bad for you, but some breast cancer organizations will slap their name, and pink ribbon, on anything just for a buck. But, I overlook that just like I overlook the people with the WWJD stickers on the backs of their cars as they cut you off in traffic and flip you the bird. A lot of the time you just have to look the other way.
But, my blog posts called #31daysoflove are going to be short little words or sentences to show my survivor friends what they mean to me. Are they all fearless, inspirational, motivational, and courageous? No, not all of them are. Are some of them scared to death, sad, badly scarred, sick, bald, tired, depressed and just plain hating cancer? Well, yes, some of them are. I have survivor friends ALL over the emotional map and that’s ok! It’s ok for women to be sad, scared, scarred, and sick of cancer. It’s cancer! It’s ok if they don’t see the happy pink lining in every ribbon and don’t want to throw on a boa, pink sneakers, and run off into the sunset smiling and showing off their bald head. CANCER IS HARD. Breast cancer can be extremely hard because it attacks what our culture places so much importance on. Breasts, femininity, beauty, curves, sexuality, and self-confidence. It is hard. Maybe not for every single woman out there, but for many. And I truly understand both sides of the pink ribbon.
What I don’t understand is how we can come so far in treatments and in targeted therapies but there is still such limited control over metastatic disease. Is it better than it was? Yes sir it is. Are people still dying from this? Yes, sadly they are. Triple negative breast cancer is a culprit in this dilemma. It is smarter than the chemo, smarter than the doctors, and obviously – for now – smarter than the researchers. Where is our targeted therapy? How can so many women continually be diagnosed with tnbc and still die from this, and we still do not have a handle on it? I know there are many layers and answers to these questions, but I still want to know WHY????
So, back to my #31daysoflove. If you know or love a survivor, snap a picture of yourself in pink, even if it’s a pink necklace or pink shoes, post it on fb and tag your survivor friend. Tell them what makes them special to you. Lift up a survivor today – the minute it takes you might just be the lift they need because you never know what kind of test is looming, bump or lump or symptom they are “watching”, or worries they are secretly carrying. Once you have cancer….the dark cloud looms for many.
The rest of my 31 days will be short posts about very special women – today is just opening the door and explaining what I am doing and it’s also day one of breast cancer awareness month so I had to speak my mind – as usual….
Day one of #31daysoflove went like this:
Susie Bell – a girl who never ceases to amaze me. Her faith is unbreakable. She is unshakable and the emotional and spiritual growth I have witnessed in her the past year or so is amazing.
Michelle Belt – who is always in my heart and my soul. Praying constantly for you. I cannot write in a sentence or two what you mean to me. Not ever. So I won’t try.
Sara Kouten – an avid facebook supporter to so many many woman. Without women like you – the rest of us would be floundering!
You three women ROCK. I love you guys!
Today I wore PINK for you….